Colored composers

Synaesthesia - a neurologically based phenomenon in which stimulation of oneOn sensory or cognitive pathway leads to automatic, involuntary experiences in a second sensory or cognitive pathway.

One famous example is Messiaen's synaesthesia in which he said caused him to experience colours when he heard or imagined music.

Additionally, someone told me that C major is fluorescent white.

So, I think music has relation with color. Different modes, moods portray variety of color. Well, we describe our mood as 'blue', you can't really see a 'blue mood' but it's a way of illustrating. This works in music too.

As I recall, my previous post had something about color. So now you can see, I love colors! I cannot imagine life without color.

I have a short list of my relation of color to composers. haha. funny me rite? Have a good laugh after you read this :p

Bach - bright sunset orange

Mozart - powdery baby blue with tinge of violet

Tchaikovsky - sweet pink

Beethoven - dark maroon brown

Schubert - Olive green

Handel - turquoise green

Debussy - light bluish grey

Messiaen - dark magenta

Chopin - light cream yellow

I'll think of more to add in.. currently can't think of a lot of composers right now.

Well, this is just for fun :)

20 Random things

This is 'Tagged' from FB. Write 20 random things and tagged 20 friends.
Well. This is my note.

1. I'm in a thoughtful mood now.

2. Reality is harsh.

3. I have a few assignments due on 10 Feb. Damn.

4. I need to stop eating so much. Please remind me.

5. Education is priceless. Don't bargain fees.

6. Today is one of the coldest day in Morgantown.

7. I wish I can be happier now.

8. I need to improve my English, at least to the level of "American Scholarly English"

9. 每个人都会遇到改变他一生的老师。

10. I'm a 哭包 (cry baby) since young.

11. Malaysia, tanah airku, what will you become?

12. I seriously don't feel like talking now.

13. I think chinese is a beautiful language with depth.

14. Life is a theatre. Act your part.

15. I am confused of myself.

16. I love music. From motets to serialism to fusion; from America to India to Malaysia; from Alaska to Argentina to Australia; from sacred to secular to commercial. Any kind will do.

17. I cannot live without my laptop, phone and camera.

18. What is love?

19. Money is not everything. Without money, means nothing.

20. Thank you for being a part of my life.

Happy Chinese 牛 year!

2008 was the year of the Rat. When Rat people meet Rat year, they always have something to worry about. Career should had something, which didn't meet their expectation. Health might not be in a perfect condition. In the beginning months of 2009, Rat people won't see any good fortune sign. From the Spring time, their luck will be getting better. They will see people are coming to help, guide and support them.

Career: In year 2009, a couples of career related Lucky Stars are coming into your life. The signs show people will support and appreciate your working quality and you will have a chance for promotion. Therefore, you do not miss the unique opportunity, show all your job skills and abilities on your position, then you should get more responsibility, get a higher title or get a higher pay job.

Money: Rat people in the year of Cow, they don't have real money luck. Since Rat and Cow have attraction relationship, it looks everything will go well, but something uncertain is coming behind the scene. If you are taking salary, then your pay will get raised, but not too much. If you invest your money on stock market, you might earn some, but will lose more. Most of investment, you will buy high and sell low. If you own your business, then the business looks good, since many customers come to visit your store or company. But they wouldn't buy or order your products too much like before. Anyway, you shouldn't do the risky business in 2009 to avoid decreasing your wealth.

Love: Rat people in Cow year, you should have joyful people relationship coming to you, because Rat and Cow have attraction relationship, which is a love sign. But there is a Lonely Star appearing in 2009 for Rat people. That means you have good and bad news in your love relationships. If you don't have a boy or girl friend now, then you have the chance to meet him or her, but your relationship will face the challenge. Yow won't enjoy the feeling of true love. If you have your boy or girl friend now, then it looks that you are still holding the relationship. But you and your lover won't have too much time to stay together. In this case, most of time, you will feel lonely.

Health: One Sick Star is coming in 2009 for Rat people. That means the health condition of Rat people is not 100%. Rat people will have more chance to catch cold or get sick in 2009. Therefore, for senior citizens with poor health need to pay more attention on their health in the year of Cow. Therefore, if you have a senior Rat person at home, you need to make sure he or she have good nutritious food and maintain adequate sleep daily. When you have a poor health, then you should try not to visit the sick friends or attend any funeral.

Fortune: The luck of Rat people in the year of Cow is fine. They can get help from supporters in their Career. Therefore, you should take this advantage to show all your strengths to people and don't miss this golden opportunity. If you lover or companion is a Rat people too, you have to manage your time well between your job and your love. Please do not leave your lover alone to damage your love relationship. In general, the only issue in 2009 is your money luck. The performance of your money investment or income will be below average. But it won't be too bad. As long as you keep a positive working attitude, stick on your position, then you have the chance to overcome the coming obstacles and you will get the reasonable returns.

Beethoven!

I'm the 6th generation of Beethoven. My god!!
Beethoven is my great great great great great grand sifu. Unbelievable!

Amstutz --> Leon Fleisher --> Arthur Schnabel --> Leschetisky --> Czerny --> BEETHOVEN

Amazing isn't it!

The cultivation of a brilliant idea

I have a fabulous, fantasic, brilliant idea!
muahahaha... *evil grin*

you'll see..

Just for fun ~

First and foremost, I would like to mention that this posting has no connection to business. I'm not doing product selling, sales, promotion, sales, marketing or commercial.
It's just pure sharing my personal belongings and stuffs that I have. Appreciating the stuffs I bought, gifts from friends; at least a memorial for them before they are gone :p

If anyone wants to know more details about the product can ask me personally.

Ok, now you can proceed to see my prize possessions.


<< ~ Bathing time

Smoothy soft skin ~ >>

<<~ Who's the fairest of them all

Campur campur ~ >>

These are part of my assets only. Still have more, but lazy to dig all out to take photo. My table's now a mess. Anyway, suddenly I realized I have so many things, only daily essentials only. (not including make up things) Don't waste, don't waste. hehe. You must be thinking I must be having so much free time to pamper myself everyday, then you are absolutely wrong! I like to buy, but i'm very lazy to remind myself to use it everyday. haha. I just used them once in a blue moon. When I have the mood, or when I become conscious of my outlook (eg: pimples, hair messy, skin too dry) See la.. ish ish..

婆媳问题

刚才在电视看了男女两性话题的节目。 觉得今天的题目很精彩,也很现实 -- 就是婆媳问题。

曾经也看过妈妈和婆婆的不和; 朋友家庭的问题; 电视剧婆媳纠纷的剧情... 婆媳问题可见是一个非常普遍的issue, 在每个人的生活里一定会面对的事。难道婆媳纠纷是不能解决的吗? 婆媳纠纷到底是谁的错? 该怪男人还是女呢？

在此声明，本小姐还未嫁人,也未能亲身理解这个问题 (更不希望有这种问题!), 所以找来了这篇很有意思的文章与大家分享，转自深圳婚姻咨询网。

婆媳问题是中国最具传统与历史的家庭问题，三四千年来，每个朝代、每个家庭似乎或多或少都受到这问题的困扰。而如何处置这个问题？传统上对这类问题的教导并不多，反而只有一些消极性的说词如：“清官难断家务事”、“天下无不是的父母”、“忍”、“眼不见为净”等类的话，于事无辅。由于时代的变迁，加上欧美家庭观念的不断输入，小家庭的普遍流行，我们发现婆媳问题在最近十几年来已不象往昔那么严重，用各地辅导机构的个案统计中，我们可以看到这种倾向。然而，婆媳问题对很多家庭仍然带来莫大的困扰，我们先分析婆媳问题发生的原因，再来谈婆媳问题的处置。

婆媳问题产生的原因，可以归纳为下列几点：

1、角色间的适应不良。 在婚前，有两组角色彼此不相冲突：男与女，母与子。男孩在谈恋爱的过程中，不管对女孩有多好，在妈妈的心目中只是一个“儿子的择偶”过程，所以妈妈多半是乐观其成。对女孩而言，恋爱时男友的体贴当然让他意乱情迷，此时她也看不到与婆婆之间未来可能的冲突。 对男人而言，婚前的角色：一方面是女友的恋人，另一方面是妈妈的孝子两种角色，很难同时面面俱到。但是婚后两个角色马上会变化，这位男士所娶的“太太”也同时是家中婆婆的“媳妇”，对新婚的太太而言是个很大的挑战。男人的立场也很尴尬，他必须是个爱太太而且有男人气概的“先生”，同时也应该是如同往昔般即听话又孝顺的“儿子”。婆婆呢？她可能丧失了家中的权威女性的地位，而眼睁睁的看着自己的儿子受到一个“外来女子”的左右。婆媳问题之所以复杂乃根源于这种角色的冲突中，很难同时摆平这三方面的压力。

2、爱的竞争与威胁 从“爱的本质”来分析，一个男人对母亲的孝顺与对太太的爱两种性质是不同的。问题是太太与母亲却不易看清这个事实，对他们而言，这种冲突并不是爱的本质的类别差异，而是“爱的对象”被掠夺的问题。妻子与母亲要这个男人属于她、听她的话，若对对方态度不好反而更佳，因为这代表男人将更属于她。这也是为什么男人在太太与母亲之间很难取舍的原因，同时也是婆媳之间需要退回的功课。她们必须学习如何成全自己所爱的“对象”，好让他能满足对对方的“本质爱”，这种对对方“本质爱”的满足并不意味着自己爱的失落，或是自己的爱受到掠夺的威胁。而是一种爱的成全。简而言之，当儿子爱太太时，婆婆不必认为“娶了一个媳妇，失去一个儿子”；当先生孝顺婆婆时，太太更千万不必有“先生并不完全属于我”的干醋思想。

3、传统婆媳观念不原略做修正。 女性的角色中所谓的三从四德虽然未包括对婆婆的顺服，但是从传统中我们不难发现，女性的三从不难，第四从才难。婆婆在娶了媳妇以后，家中的地位已跃了一级，从此以后家中的苦差事有人代劳，若再加上“绝对顺服，不容拂逆”的观念，现代女性很少有人能经得起这种“传统”任务的挑战。 此外，或许婆婆以前当媳妇时吃过苦，也挨的起苦，现在自己当婆婆，偶而略对媳妇施加压力，本身也视之为当然，这是一种“隔代报复”的心理现象（当时不敢对婆婆报复，现在则对媳妇要求苛刻）。并且，时下常有一些新女性，自视高人一等，根本不把婆婆看在眼里，更谈不上孝顺或服侍公婆了。因此，婆媳问题当然难免产生了。

4、家庭中先生、太太与婆婆之间的沟通不良。 婆媳纠纷不一定从“大事”引起的，若是沟通不良，鹅毛蒜皮的小事也可能引爆大冲突。比如，儿子结婚度完蜜月回家时已是深夜，隔天的早餐到底该女个女人来准备？婆婆认为媳妇已经进门几天了，理所当然，应该是媳妇起来做早点，那知媳妇因一夜劳累，而且刚进家门还不习惯要起床服侍全家大小。。。等等诸如此类的小事，若正式的明讲可能让人觉得小题大做，但是不讲清楚却又会造成夫妻误会。谁来讲？怎么讲？都是值得注意的事。

5、男人的处置不当。 在两个女人当中，男人既要“摆平”又要“安抚”，的确不是一件易事，但是并非完全没有办法。很多男人常说：“妈妈只有一个，太太可以再娶”，不分青红皂白，当然太太会受不了。此外，有人以为反正妻子与母亲之间只能爱一个的观念也不甚妥当，在处理太太与母亲之间的争执时，常常因为这种毫无弹性的解释与处置，使得事情日趋恶化。若是他能分析对方的需要，消除产生误会的症结，则家中的婆媳纠纷必可减少。

解决方法：有关婆媳纠纷的处理，必须从婆婆、媳妇与先生三方面同时着手，而且密切配合才能达成。

1、婆婆应注意的事项。

A、在观念上，婆婆首先应该认识到，惟有儿子与媳妇切实相爱才是家庭幸福的主要关键，而不是儿子的孝顺与否。 在此笔者无意贬低家庭中长辈的尊严与价值，乃是从家庭的结构与特质来分析。若是儿子与媳妇不合，受苦的不只是两个人，更波及到无辜的下一代，而公公婆婆也必然是个受害者。如果媳妇被儿子“休掉”或是两个人闹的不可开交，尽管儿子十分孝顺，也是一种悲剧。简而言之，公婆自求多福最好的方法就是设法鼓励，使儿子与媳妇相爱。

B、让儿子独立作主，不要干涉他们夫妻之间的事。 倘若儿子很听媳妇的话，当婆婆的必觉得难受，因为这不是一件坏事，只要家庭和谐、正常，无论是媳妇顺服儿子，或是儿子听从媳妇都无妨，因为没有任何一个女人会故意陷害自己的先生，当媳妇比儿子还能干时，应为儿子庆幸娶到这么擅长管理家政的太太，千万不要为儿子抱不平。

C、主动与媳妇沟通、分工合作处理家事。 媳妇家事如果做得不够理想或媳妇过于懒散，婆婆可以善意的列出应处理的家事项目，提醒媳妇，诸如谁买菜、谁洗碗、谁清扫、谁看小孩。。等。这种事先的沟通虽然有点怪，但总比存着“不必我说你本来就应该知道”的心理要好。万一家事已分配得很清楚，而她因有特殊的状况不能做好时，主动协助她完成是相当重要的。这种“投资”必定在不久的将来得到更大的回报。

D、可能的话，不要与儿子和媳妇一起居住，婆婆将得到更多的尊重与孝顺。 若生活起居不需人照顾，而且两老自己也有安居之地时，则不妨自己居住，倒也可乐得清净。若嫌寂寞，可以去探望儿孙，或转移情怀至宗教活动、参与慈善团体等社会服务工作，也不失为一种自享清福的方法。

2、媳妇应该注意的事项。

A、须有主动的孝顺行为。 孝顺公婆若只随着先生去“行礼如仪”是不够的，她必须积极、主动到让公婆感受到是媳妇自己在孝顺公婆，甚至比儿子还更孝顺，要不然就谈不上行为的积极功能。时上年轻女性最大的问题是她们把孝顺公婆当作是一种可以随便应付了事的行为，当然无法得到婆婆的欢心，更甭想婆婆视媳妇如同自己的女儿了。

B、须“强化”孝顺公婆的“具体行为” 爱在心头口难开是不够的，孝顺公婆远比孝顺父母更需要具体的孝顺行为。尤其在新婚阶段，媳妇对婆婆口头上的问候、生活起居的服侍，更不能大意。一直等到公婆对媳妇印象良好，或是已有很深的感情基础时，不妨再加强与公婆之间的心灵沟通，比如意见的交换、感受的分享等。若是一进婆家，就忽略了具体孝顺行为的重要性，而光重心灵的互动，有时效果不是很好。

C、顺服心的培养。 在时间的条件上，太太对先生应有十足的信心，不必提防婆婆会取代你自己的地位。有时候，抓住先生的心最好的方法并不是紧迫盯人，而是成全他、鼓励他多听父母亲的话；委屈自己，不必太强调自我的意见。有时我们会发现，只要自己贤惠，不怕大家不尊重你、听从你。反之，若是只知一味的逞强、或是争风吃醋，使彼此的关系愈来愈疏远，反而是得不偿失的。

3、先生方面应注意的事项。 婆媳纠纷的处理，最主要的人物莫过去先生了。他应注意的原则如下：

A、扮演一个好的“中间者”，不要偏袒任何一方。 不必一味的叫太太顺服妈妈，当然也不可以让妈妈失去它应有的尊严。在婆媳纠纷中，他不必评断谁是谁非、谁赢谁输，他最主要的工作应是做双方的代言人，解释或表达彼此之间的善意（即使是恶意也要设法转换，并且说服当事者，使之变成善意）。换句话说，“中间者”就是要设法消除婆媳间的误会，传递婆媳间的正面情谊。千万不要让婆媳间有“一赢一输，一生一死”的关系形态。

B、行为上以父母为第一，内心中则是太太至上。 理想中的家庭应该是夫妻相爱异常，两人同心协力好好孝顺双亲、公婆。若此境界不能达成时，则不妨设法说服太太，两个人在某些行为上有相当的默契，共同孝顺双亲。当然先生必须有对太太爱的保证，强调爱她的忠心，并请求她以爱丈夫之心来爱公婆。

C、生活习惯上难保持夫妻间的隐秘性，但家庭活动中不要忘了让父母亲共同来参与。 女人最受不了的可能就是她与先生之间没有隐秘性，而偏偏很多先生总是主动的向父母亲报告大小难事。无论如何先生与太太之间应有一段时间、某个场合、某些事情是绝对属于夫妻两人自己的，此时可以让两人有更多感情的交流、情绪的宣泄，及事务上的讨论。对于某些社交、旅行、郊游等活动，有时候也应该邀请父母亲共同参与，而不把老迈的双亲一直当作负担，否则父母亲会成为被儿子媳妇刻意孤立的一员。换个角度而言，为人公婆的若能体谅儿子媳妇的状况，让他们多点时间私下相处，也不失为是赢取他们情感的方法。当然每家情况互异，重点亦有所不同，不可一概而论。

总之，任何方法与技巧并不一定能立刻奏效，如果彼此间不能相爱的话。若是大家都能彼此相爱，注意以上提到的技巧与步骤，凡事体谅、忍耐到底的话，假以时日，对方必会感动而改变的。即使对方不能如愿受感动改变，只要心存无愧的良心，我们也就不必太过自责了。

后记：我未来的老公，记得要读这篇文章，醒目点啦！哈哈 ;)

Rainbow

Red and yellow and pink and green, purple and orange and blue... la la la..

I think that's how I sang the rainbow song during kindergarten.

雨停了，雨停了，彩虹高高挂...

Then, during primary school days we sang 彩虹歌. If I'm not mistaken, can't really remember too.

High school days, we don't sing anymore rainbow song, but memorize the order of colors in the rainbow. So we used, "Michael Jackson kena halau balik India Utara", which stands for merah, jingga, kuning, hijau, biru, indigo, ungu.

The other day, my student played a song called 'Rainbow' from Alfred piano level 2. The suggested method to remember rainbow colors is "Roy G. Biv", as if a person's name, which actually stands for "red, orange, yellow, green, blue, indigo, violet".

Of course, there are many songs that's related to rainbow. To name a few, "Over the rainbow" (my favourite!), Rainbow connection, I can sing a rainbow, The spectrum song, etc.."

Suddenly I felt that rainbow always has a close connection to me.

It has been raining for the past few weeks here, hardly see the bright warm sun. Weather is so unpredictable in Malaysia. I love raining. I love the scent of rain, the symphony of raindrops, the feeling of rain gently hitting my skin. However, only once is a blue moon that we have the chance to see rainbow.

Wikipedia: Rainbows are optical illusions and meteorological phenomena that cause a spectrum of light to appear in the sky when the Sun shines onto droplets of moisture in the Earth's atmosphere. They take the form of a multicoloured arc, with red on the outer part of the arch and violet on the inner section of the arch.

When I reach home after a heavy downpour a few days ago, I saw rainbow faintly in the distant sky. Quickly I grabbed by camera and start snapping. Rainbow always makes me believe there's 幸福.

Last two nights, I had a dream about rainbow too. I remember I am very very close the the rainbow, almost touching it, and the colors are shinning brightly. But something has cut across the rainbow (like mist or cloud), so the rainbow doesn't looks curvy but a part has disappeared. It was a very weird dream, but I know I felt happy.
Em, can anyone interpret my dream?

Rainbow Tears by A.J. McKinley

Through rainbow tears I see love's true colors
Shining bright amongst them above all others...
Red, Green, Yellow, violet and blue...
All these beautiful colors I now see in you.

Love is my pot of gold,
Forever within my grasp
All I need are open eyes
And a map to complete this task.

And the storm will come of this we know
And darkness soon calls the show
Around me a rainbow of tears have spent.
My pot of gold to you have went.

And miracle is the day I found
My rainbow tears scattered upon the ground
My heart forever now is glad
Leaving room for light to replace the sad.

And to the dearest most sacred spot
My rainbow tears your hand has caught.
In this bond we shall forever rest.
Two souls combined for the rainbow test.

Underdeveloped ideas

Do you write blog because you want to release your inner thoughts?
Or is it just jotting down daily routines?

Dr Foo said: don't force yourself to think of what to blog; instead blog when you are inspired.

Right. But I have lots to babble, tons of ideas. But, the problem is developing and organizing my ideas which is the difficult part. Although I haven't update my blog for about a week, but I have several underdeveloped postings. Not because I don't have ideas, its just that, whenever I'm typing half way, usually I'll end up falling asleep in front of my laptop. hehe..

Anyway, I'm glad that my life partner is doing good with her new blog. Go, phungy!

There are many news to update.. haih.. I guess I really have to sit down and write. I will.. soon..
(As usual, my best attribute is procrastinate)

I mean it, i will be back!!!

Why blog?

An angel asked me, why am I into blog all of a sudden?

I do not have the habit of keeping diaries as far as I can recall. Ah, except my primary school days - to write a short essay everyday in an unattractive brown colored 单线簿 or 中小方格簿。Usually, I copied part of my so-called diary from 知识画报 or 小星星周刊. No harm la, all student has similar daily routines. Then, there was a short period of time during my high school time, where I kept a diary with a boy. You must be wondering how. It’s actually exchanging diary. We wrote about thoughts and happenings of our lives and exchange when we meet in school. This was our bridge of corresponding and understanding. That was the sweetest period during my school days. (Okla, I admit, I had a huge crush with this guy. No, not just crush, it was a massive explosion. Haha!) Oh, back to reality, imagination went wild. *paiseh* My next encounter of 'diary' was during my university days. It was this music criticism course where we were required to write 'course diary' after every lecture. Em, this was quite useful because I need to pay more attention during class, but guess what. I only start to write my course diary during the end of the semester. I sort of crammed up everything and hand in at the very last minute. Hehe.

Anyway, the idea of creating a blog does not come out of the blue. I have been thinking for many years. Just merely neurons transmitting signals in my brain, no physical action. Partly because I had hectic schedules in university and work; and another reason is because I do not have my own laptop. Now that I have my own baby and more flexibility in time, so why not? Finally I set my foot down and signed up blogger.

Blogging has been a trend for a few years, young kids from 8 years old to grandma of 80 years old also know how to blog. I know, I’m kinda outdated to board the bus now. Better late than never! To answer angel’s question on why am I into blogging lately:

1. To improve my writing skills and the ability of expressing my thoughts with words. Hence, upgrade my essay quality and language proficiency. This will come in handy in thesis writing next time :p

2. To notate my daily life. When I die, this is a proof of my existence on this earth. At least people can still recall me and reminisce the good old times we had. Haha!

3. A mirror for me to reflect myself, my thoughts. And also an alternative channel of expression (other than physical conveyance, verbal communication and music).

4. (Being forced to put this reason) I am inspired by a wonderful writer – Mr Cheong. He is an excellent blogger. Therefore, I’m trying to follow his footsteps. Hehe. Happy now?

I guess these are the reasons I blog. What about you?